When most people think of an introvert they think of a shy friend who doesn’t like to go out. However, introversion is a lot more than that, and in some cases doesn’t look like that at all. To understand the difference between extroverts and introverts we need to understand that it’s not necessarily a black-and-white difference between the two. Many psychiatrists refer to these personality types as a spectrum. This brings to light the idea that one introvert may have different social tendencies than another, and the same can go for extroverts.

Not So Shy

A common misconception about introversion is that it causes them to be shy and awkward. Sometimes this may be true, but more often than not, introverted people simply don’t want to talk. For them interacting with people takes a lot more energy, and they might prefer to spend it doing something else. A common thing for introverted people to enjoy putting their energy toward is understanding themselves better, and diving into an introspective thought process or meditative state.

Social Caterpillars

It can be easy to see the way that introverted people act in large-scale social situations like parties or large group events and think that they don’t enjoy being there. However, it’s helpful to remember that they are individual people with their own unique limits and comfort zones. While most introverts need a lot of energy to interact with people, they value deep connections with those they connect with. Many introverted people tend to form deep relationships with peers because they are more empathetic and aware of the emotions surrounding them. You can think of them like social caterpillars, they still love to socialize, but not on the same scale as a social butterfly.

Confident Queens

Usually, when we look at leaders we think of the bold and loud leaders who take charge. Those leaders who delegate and lead with courage. That may not sound like the average introvert, however, introverted people can still be some of the strongest leaders. There are many different leadership styles, some of which align with the values and strengths of introverted people. One way may be leading by example, someone who works alongside their peers and collaboratively guides them. Another may be leading with empathy, understanding each team member’s strengths and weaknesses will allow them to delegate and group tasks more effectively. This also adds to their ability to problem solve as they can understand other perspectives better than most and bring those together to form a solution.

Embrace The Unbroken

As odd as it may seem, sometimes people try to “fix” introverted people. But most introverts are comfortable being the way they are, and just because they are different doesn’t mean that they need to change. When we try to change someone’s instinctual behavior it can sometimes have negative effects. So, whether in a workplace or a friend group, appreciate the diverse personalities of those around you–they may enhance your life more than you realize.

Take the time to understand who your peers are, from their point of view. Learning about introversion vs. extroversion may help, but at the end of the day the most loving thing you can do is get to know individual people. While we may fall into personality categories, we are all unique. So, spark up a conversation, invite someone to lunch, and ask them to join you for coffee. Get to know the people around you and you may learn more about yourself.

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